(One year on) Our Wedding: The Music

DIY Wedding, hired jukebox instead of PA or DJ

I think it’s fair to say that most of us are pretty keen on music. And for all the weddings I’ve been involved in, music has played an important role in some way, shape or form. I’ve seen brides walk down the aisle to Bjork, “Daisy, Daisy” and even “Eye of the Tiger”; and seen all manner of first dances, from carefully choreographed waltzes and tangoes, to fun freestyle boogies.

In fact, some of my clearest memories of the weddings I’ve planned are music related…..the beautifully touching first dance of Emily and Mike to Sam Cooke’s “You Send Me” at the first reception I ever planned….rushing around a venue trying to find anyone who had a certain version of a certain song on their MP3 player, because the CD the groom had given me didn’t work (crisis averted, thanks to a very helpful bar manager!)…..the amazing string quartet who played a couple down the aisle to their own version of “Whole Lotta Love”…..and that moment when a groom tested his iPod ahead of a ceremony, and my shock as I realised that the track they’d chosen was full of swear words (luckily they only wanted to use the intro, so I was saved from that discussion!).

So, as fairly avid music fans ourselves, music was something that featured heavily in our own wedding planning. It’s one of the simplest ways to personalise an event, and to evoke the kind of atmosphere you want to achieve. And, forgiving the odd difference of opinion, we thoroughly enjoyed putting together all the music we needed for both “Part One” (our ceremony) and “Part Two” (the reception).

For the ceremony we only needed a couple of pieces of music as we’d decided to keep things pretty short and simple…..but of course that can often make things even trickier as our choices would count for even more! Both of the tracks we went with were pretty obvious choices though, because they mean such a lot to us, and remind us of moments we’ve shared.

From early on after our engagement (and perhaps even before if I’m honest!) I had thought of the perfect piece of music to walk down the aisle to…..when we lived in London together for the first time, we watched Battlestar Galactica together, and absolutely loved everything about it, including its amazing soundtrack by Bear McCreary. To me, the piece entitled “The Shape of Things To Come” made for a perfect aisle track, and when I suggested it to Adam, he fast agreed that it should be first on our list of definites. I still go all goose-pimply when I hear it, and it will forever remind me of the anticipation of our ‘legal bit’.

For walking out together, we both had a few ideas of up-beat, celebratory tunes we loved. It wasn’t long before we worked out which one it should be though…..I’ve always loved Mama Cass Elliot’s “It’s Getting Better“, and as we’d regularly hear it on the radio, Adam grew very fond of it too. When we sat and read the lyrics together (Adam is more of a melody person, whilst I like to analyse every word!) we decided that it was the perfect track, happy and positive, and very *us*. We typed out the lyrics to show on our notice board at the party too, and played it again during the reception play list.

DIY Wedding, music menu notice board

Our next choice came to be for our first dance. We’d not initially planned to do one at all, but we’d been taking ballroom and latin beginners classes, as well as a couple of modern jive workshops and really loved it…..so when I came up with an idea for a track, Adam found he couldn’t say no! Another show we’d loved watching together was the anime series Cowboy Bebop, and we were always both crazy about the awesome jazz title track, which is called “Tank“.

Now it doesn’t sound like an obvious first dance track I’ll grant you, but to us it just seemed the perfect choice. We didn’t want a really long drawn out slow track, as we didn’t feel comfortable being ‘on show’ for any great length of time, and the short version of Tank being only a minute and a half long (and very fast!) made us much more comfortable! We also loved the big band, jazzy feel to it, and knew it would work well with the style of dance we wanted to go for….our amazing teachers, Lee and Dawn (modern jive world champions in point of fact!) choreographed it for us with modern jive, foxtrot and samba moves (a nice change for them, apparently!) and we had six private lessons with them to learn it all.

Some bits were trickier than others to master (the glider lift in particular!) but we thoroughly enjoyed our classes and although a bit nervous on the night (resulting only in a couple of footwork mistakes!), really loved dancing it to officially open the dance floor. Our friend Holly was kind enough to take a little video, which she shared with us afterwards….I love our friend Rachel’s sort of commentary! It looks waaaay slower than it felt to dance, and you get a bit of an up-skirt shot at the end, but it’s a lovely reminder for us!

For the rest of the party music, we split the evening into three sections…. for the first two hours we made a playlist of background music for the time people were arriving and saying their hellos etc….then for the next few hours everyone got to choose what they wanted to hear from the jukebox we hired, which featured every top ten song since the fifties, as well as lots of other favourites besides…..and finally, after our first dance, we created a playlist of floor fillers to dance the night away to.

For our joint hen and stag do, we’d organised a modern jive workshop with Lee and Dawn (followed by a meal and cocktails, obviously!) and so we decided to start the dancing with some of the tracks we’d used at that, to encourage people to join us on the dance floor and help jog their memory of the routine we’d all learned together. After that, we ordered the songs (more or less) chronologically, as that helped them flow from one to another….Adam actually learned to mix and edit them so that we could cut short any that were too long (meaning we could include more songs!) and omit any weird bits or long pauses between tracks. It took him aaaaages, but was well worth it, as it was like having a DJ play everything we wanted, and in the order we wanted it!

DIY Wedding, hired jukebox instead of PA or DJ

We most carefully chose the last few songs, as we were keen to finish the night on a high note….after a few of our favourite more current tracks, we played Queen’s “Don’t Stop Me Now“, leaving in a pause at the end so that everyone would think it was the last song (it does make a great last song in my opinion!). Then to *really* finish, we chose AC/DC’s “You Shook Me All Night Long“, which we both love, and seemed rather apt! I have wonderful memories of a whole load of us doing a sort of ‘Hokey Cokey’ to it, all singing along and having a great time.

Planning it all out like that helped us to keep track of time on the night, and give a little structure to the eight hours we had. We’d toyed with the idea of getting in one of the amazing bands or brilliant DJs I’ve worked with before, but it was a (budget enforced) choice between those and having a full, open cocktail bar, plus there’d have been set-up and time restrictions too. All in all, we wouldn’t change the way we did it at all, and doing it this way was really cost effective….the jukebox we hired came with additional speakers and lighting, so we didn’t have to hire in a PA system, plus we could very easily plug in an iPod (we had three in total, just in case one failed, plus a CD!) for our own playlists. I’d really recommend going this way to anyone who wants full control of their music and doesn’t have an endless budget….the editing and mixing is well worth doing though so that it’s all seamless!

I won’t bore you with a full list of what we included in our playlists, but here are some of my highlights……

From the reception:

As the Days Go By / Talking Heads
Everlasting Love / Love Affair
Go Your Own Way / Fleetwood Mac
Rebel Rebel / David Bowie
One, two, three, four / Feist
Teenage Dream / Katy Perry
Walking After You / Foo Fighters
Daydream Believer / The Monkees
Born to Run / Bruce Springstein
At Last / Etta James
One Track Lover / Matt Berry
Walk Idiot Walk / The Hives

From the dancing:

Get Lucky / Daft Punk
Forget You / Cee lo Green
Mr Blue Sky / ELO
Let Her Dance / The Bobby Fuller Four
Tiger Feet / Mud
Superstition / Stevie Wonder
Don’t Stop Til You Get Enough / Michael Jackson
Jump / The Pointer Sisteres
Roll To Me / Del Amitri
I Wanna Dance With Somebody / Whitney Houston
Everybody Dance Now / CandC Music Factory
Return of the Mack / Mark Morrison
Don’t Stop Movin’ / S Club 7
Take Back the Night / Justin Timberlake
We Found Love / Rihanna
Sex on Fire / Kings of Leon

 

What was your first dance to? Or do you have a song you dream of walking down the aisle to? I’d LOVE to hear about it!

Ems x

DIY Wedding, hired jukebox instead of PA or DJ

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Since I saw you last….

Yes, I know that’s a Gary Barlow song. And no, I won’t apologise for the ear worm.

Anyways! Hello! Long time! It’s been a seriously busy few months, and possibly the most momentous time ever for me. So, without further ado, here’s a whistle stop tour of what I’ve been up to…..

April was really all about wedding prep….making favours, up-cycling furniture for the reception, and oh, you know, making my wedding dress! Just as everyone always says it does, the wedding came round so fast and there was some frantic organising done in those last few weeks! We did manage to fit in some fun and relaxation though, and on the last weekend in April we hosted our joint Hen and Stag do!

Wedding Crafting

Wedding Crafting

Neither of us was terribly keen on doing separate Hen and Stag parties, and whilst we initially intended not to bother at all, when we hatched an idea to do them together we thought it’d be fun. We booked our fabulous dance teachers (Modern Jive World Champions!) Lee and Dawn to teach a bunch of us for a few hours in a local hall. It was great to have lots of friends meet each other for the first time, and the dancing was a brilliant ice breaker as we had to keep swapping partners throughout the class. Even the hounds came along and dressed up for the occasion too! By the end of it we were all pretty good at the little routine, which we vowed to practise and use at the wedding reception a few weeks later.

007 Cooper

007 Cooper

Rock n Roll Digby

Rock n Roll Digby

Afterwards we met up with more friends and had a yummy meal at our favourite Hitchin curry house (they do awesome veggie dishes), then made our way to one of our favourite bars in town to drink lots and lots of cocktails. We love the little Music Room at the back of the old Corn Exchange on the market square, and we have to admit that Pitcher and Piano have done a grand job with the place….not to mention their cocktails.

The morning after we were in need of some serious calories, so a bunch of us headed to The Groundworks for breakfast (the chorizo omlette the most popular) before everyone made their way back home and we began the final preparations for the wedding the following weekend!

Espresso and chocolate crepe at Just Desserts

Espresso and chocolate crepe at Just Desserts

During the week running up to the wedding I was also treated to a night out with my colleagues. We met just around the corner at Just Desserts, which as the name suggests, only serves puddings! We all toasted with fizzy and ate large amounts of waffles, crepes and sundaes, before I headed home wearing a flashing ‘Bride to Be’ sash and with a big bunch of cute balloons.

Bridal shower garms

Bridal shower garms

Bridal shower balloons

Bridal shower balloons

So next of course, we got married! I’ll leave off all the details and photos for now as I’ll write about all that separately. Suffice to say, we had the most amazing time ever though! We actually did the ceremony bit in Greenwich on the 3rd of May, then followed up with the reception on the 24th…..we like to drag things out! Anyway, it was the most wonderful excuse to spend time and have lots of fun with our nearest and dearest, so I’ll look forward to sharing more soon. Here’s one sneak peek of a photo for now though!…..

Me and him on our wedding day in Greenwich

Me and him on our wedding day in Greenwich

In between the ceremony day and the reception, we were super busy getting things ready for the big party. Adam finished work a couple of days before the wedding, so he had a few weeks to help me out with the huge amount of craft and DIY projects we had planned. We did make time for a few dates though, and it was lovely to enjoy his time off with some cocktails and meals out. We discovered (after way too long!) that the Hermitage Road Restaurant, which is just a few minutes walk from us, serves some seriously good cocktails, and we also enjoyed an amazing Thai meal at Sukawatee opposite.

My Husband and a rather yummy cocktail in a tin mug

My Husband and a rather yummy cocktail in a tin mug

We had another week between the wedding reception and going on honeymoon, which we used in part to recover from the party! We both came down with colds, which was a real drag and stopped us from doing all the sorting we’d planned. The house looked like a party supplier had exploded in it, with excess furniture cluttering up the place, and various random things hanging around such as small wooden windmills, boxes of jam jars and copious amounts of left over booze. We did however enjoy spending time going through all our cards and messages, opening gifts, reading the recipes people had given us (we asked for these instead of having a gift registry) and laughing at all the photo booth pictures. We were so very ready for our holiday by the time we set off for the airport though….we’ve not had a proper sunny summer holiday for years and couldn’t wait to relax by the pool!

Waiting for our second flight of three to our honeymoon destination

Waiting for our second flight of three to our honeymoon destination

After thirty hours of travelling (eeep!) we were finally welcomed to our stunning hotel in Nusa Dua, Bali. The relief as we sunk into the huge sofa in the air conditioned club room was immense, and the yummy cold cocktails and gifts we were brought made us start to think it had all been worth it. After checking in, we went to our room to find yet more gifts, and un-packed as we awaited our room service supper before crashing into bed. The time difference and the flights had all happily made it so that we could fall asleep at our usual bed time, bang on bed time in Bali….although that said, we were still rather lazy in the morning and didn’t get to breakfast until pretty late! We spent the day eating, drinking cocktails and exploring the resort….nicely settling in to the incredible weather and the laid back vibe.

Pretty much my view for most of the holiday

Pretty much my view for most of the holiday

Again, hopefully I’ll write in more detail about our trip….we did quite a few activities and excursions (not to mention three trips to the amazing spa!) so there’s lots to write, and stacks of photos too. We totally fell in love with Bali though, and would really recommend it for a holiday….the weather is spot on, the people are delightful and the food is terrific! In the mean time, here’s a few of my iPhone snaps to show you some of the highlights…..

The view from our lovely room

The view from our lovely room

Room service breakfast on the morning of one of our excursions

Room service breakfast on the morning of one of our excursions

Our trip to a coffee and spice plantation, including an awesome coffee tasting with a view to die for

Our trip to a coffee and spice plantation, including an awesome coffee tasting with a view to die for

We saw lots of traditional, local dances, including a wonderful fire dance performance

We saw lots of traditional, local dances, including a wonderful fire dance performance

I LOVED meeting a whole lot of monkeys on one of our outings!

I LOVED meeting a whole lot of monkeys on one of our outings!

We were in Bali for two weeks and loved every minute of it. We did miss the dogs terribly though (my Mum looked after them for the first week, Adam’s Mum for the second) and so were ready to come home to see them. They were a sight for sore eyes when we got home after another thirty hour journey, and their reaction to our return was wonderful. They’d been a little spoiled whilst we were away, with lie-ins in the grown up beds and endless sofa time cuddles, but they were still very pleased to see us and seeing them made parting with Bali all the more bearable!

Adam had a full week off after our return, which was a real treat. We made the most of it and planned lots of meet ups and outings and things….all of which was made even better by the fabulous weather we came home to! By a happy coincidence a bunch of our friends had the Friday of that week off, so we met up in a local park for a picnic. We made up a load of Pimm’s with ginger ale and got a stack of yummy treats from M&S, which we scoffed whilst sitting in the gorgeous sun. It was so nice to come home to such great weather after being so spoiled on holiday, and better still to be able to spend time outdoors with friends.

Picnic Pimm's

Picnic Pimm’s

The indulgences continued as we met friends again for afternoon treats at Just Desserts…..it was lovely enough to sit out in the garden there as we ate delicious sundaes, waffles and crepes.

Just Desserts crew

Just Desserts crew

Then on the Sunday we celebrated my birthday. Adam made me breakfast to have out in the garden, which was just lovely, and I had a whole lot of wonderful birthday cards and gifts to open too.

Birthday breakfast in the garden

Birthday breakfast in the garden

Later we went out for an amazing Sunday roast lunch at The a Black Horse at Ireland….I had their seriously good roast chicken followed by an incredible poached peach dessert which came with a slice of courgette loaf and a stunning coconut panna cotta!

Black Horse birthday pudding

Black Horse birthday pudding

Our first proper day out was to Wimpole Hall, which is a stunning National Trust property about half an hour away. We took the dogs with us and explored the extensive grounds with them first….they love adventuring in new places and the walk was a lovely change to our usual haunts.

The hounds discover a Gothic folly

The hounds discover a Gothic folly

We dropped the dogs back off at the car for a bit whilst we went to look around the gardens, then had a picnic lunch at the car to check on them. Then it was into the house to see all the incredible interiors and chat to the super knowledgeable volunteers in each room. We came away dreaming of a house with a library like the one there, and I know I certainly coveted more than a few of the incredible ornaments all over the place!

After a final check on the dogs, we went to see the charming home farm where we met some darling little piglets, then stopped in at the impressive walled garden before doing a spot of shopping on the way out…. I treated myself to one of their gorgeous picnic blankets made from oddments of yarn, and Adam splurged on some yummy wines and raspberry curd.

Wimpole Hall really is worth a visit if you’re in the area….there’s easily a full day’s worth of things to do there, and they even put on outdoor theatre events in the summer which I bet are worth checking out.

The library at Wimpole Hall

The library at Wimpole Hall

As our second little day trip we decided to drive to Ampthill, in search of the wonderful antiques emporium there. I’d never been to the sweet little market town before, and was delighted to to find that the emporium was even larger and grander than I’d thought! Spread over three floors are stacks of treasures, from old shop fittings and stunning lamps, to rocking horses and vintage clothing. Some of the furniture is just incredible, and there are lots of collectables to root through too. I fell in love with a very old and shabby rocking donkey, who I’d have loved to have taken home to revamp, but with a house fit to burst after all the wedding additions I left without him. I did treat myself to a beautiful silk scarf though, in my current favourite colours of coral and spearmint.

The Ampthill Antiques Emporium

The Ampthill Antiques Emporium

Afterward we found a darling little tea room called Cakestand and Crumb, where we had delicious sandwiches and seriously yummy cake to follow. Everything in there is super cute and chintzy, and I just adored the vintage record player and the lovely old tunes it put out.

Me in my new scarf at Cupcake and Crumb

Me in my new scarf at Cupcake and Crumb

There was still more to look forward to as our amazing wedding photographer Sharon delivered our wedding pictures! They were all wrapped up beautifully with local lavender and lots of other little gifts in a darling linen bag Sharon had made! We just loved going through them all and couldn’t be more grateful for all of Sharon’s hard work….she really goes above and beyond!

Wedding photo package

Wedding photo package

Sharon also featured one of our wedding shots in a local exhibition for the Humanitas charity, which took place in the barn at The George in Hitchin. The theme was ‘Imagining Animals’ and her photo of Adam in a giant panda head, with our guests around us in panda masks looked great amongst all the other wonderful local artwork.

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Exhibitionists!

Soon though it was time to get back to work, although I softened the blow by treating myself to a new pair of shoes to wear to the office….I’d been eying up the silver and white Hamble brogues from Clarkes and when they came into the sale I had to have them (I’d love the Taupe version for winter next!).

Back to school shoes

Back to school shoes

We also had to set to work on finding a new place to live, as we have to move out of our house in Hitchin! We opted to make the move up to West Yorkshire a couple of years earlier than planned, and after a huge amount of faffing, to-ing and fro-ing we finally found a place in Otley. The next job of course was to pack….a job which has filled most of our time since, and is still very much on-going! We’ve loved the fine weather though….it seems a real treat to have had a ‘proper summer’ and to get to wear summery dresses and whatnot. The dogs have enjoyed it too, with lots of paddles in the river and even their very first ice lollies!

Cooper's first blueberry ice lolly!

Cooper’s first blueberry ice lolly!

We spent one lovely sunny weekend with friends Dan and Brigitte, who came for an overnight visit. We took them to The Groundworks for their ‘Late Night Sessions’ cocktail night, which was a great way to spend a hot evening! I especially enjoyed the Gabriella cocktail which came with a rocket lolly dunked in it!

Late Night Sessions at The Grounworks

Late Night Sessions at The Groundworks

Another lush Saturday was spent at my dear friend Claire’s home for her Bridal Shower. Fellow bridesmaid Eileen hosted the Parisian themed afternoon, and I helped with chintzy china and bunting. I ate far too many macaroons and drank far too much fizz, but we had a lovely time playing games and chatting!

Parisian Bridal Shower

Parisian Bridal Shower

And because the last few months have been all about utter indulgence, we took a trip to a favourite local Italian restaurant in Letchworth, where we scoffed yummy pasta before heading to Hitchin Lavender to take some sunset photos. It really is stunning there, and it was lovely to go at ‘golden hour’.

Hannah in the lavender

Hannah in the lavender

Our next fun day out was into London for a very early Christmas present from me to Adam! I booked us onto a speciality whisky, bourbon and rye cocktail making masterclass at 69 Colebrooke Row, and we had an amazing time learning some new recipes and perfecting some old favourites. We also used the opportunity to scoff Fro Yo and drink Taro bubble tea whilst in Islington, as well as having a wander round the flea market.

Adam mixing with the pros at 69 Colebrooke Row

Adam mixing with the pros at 69 Colebrooke Row

We’ve been celebrating another amazing year for soft fruits, and harvested a bumper crop from our greengage tree. I made kilos of jam, a greengage and vanilla tart, and still had plenty left over to eat on their own! The garden has suffered somewhat due to my busyness, and is looking rather over grown! It has had a bit of TLC in the last week or so though, and there are lots of plants I want to dig up to take with us!

Ready to jam

Ready to jam

On Friday I travelled into London to meet my lovely friend Jo and her adorable one year old, Teddy. We had a good mosey along the Southbank (I loved the carnival performance in the Clore Ballroom with steel drums, brass band and dancers in neon pink tutu wigs!) before a gorgeous lunch at the Tate Modern. We walked back along the North bank together, then I was off to church at Aldwych for a wedding rehearsal! I had the honour of being Bridesmaid at Claire and Matthew’s wedding, and it was great to have chance to catch up with folk before the big day, not to mention getting some tips from Rev David on walking down the aisle in high heels, and drinking gin fizz afterwards!

Carnival fun

Carnival fun

Then yesterday was the big day itself! I travelled to Leyton to get ready with Claire and the other Bridesmaids….having a good cry when I buttoned her into her stunning dress and saw how utterly gorgeous she looked! We then travelled into town for the lovely ceremony (I loved singing the hymns and managed my role as veil monitor without disaster!) before heading to North London to the pretty cricket pavilion and marquee where the reception took place. The day was filled with fun and merriment, and all passed by so fast, but it was such a delight to be part of Claire and Matthew’s day.

Bridesmaids on the move

Bridesmaids on the move

Badger wedding cake

Badger wedding cake

We had our good friends Craig and Shelley stay over after the wedding, so this morning saw a lie in for me followed by lots of tea and chatting. They will actually be very near to us when we move so we packed them off with some of our more delicate cargo (the precious contents of Adam’s well stocked bar as well as some of my house plants!) and then the rest of the day has been about walking the dogs and lounging about.

This week will see a packing frenzy ahead of our big move next week…..I’m so excited to be in our new home town, but the thought of getting everything up there is rather a frightening one! Wish me luck as I bubble wrap and tape gun my way through all our junk! I’ll be sure to update you at the other end, but ta-tah for now!

Ems x